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Resource for Straight PartnersA Diverse Kind of Love: Heterosexual Wife, Homosexual Husband
A Different Kind of Love: Heterosexual Wife, Homosexual Husband
Author Louella Christy Komuves was in a happy marriage that lasted 29 years until everything fell apart. Her husband, five years older than she, had silently struggled with his sexuality his entire life and finally made the judgment to come out as a gay man. After the devastating collapse of her marriage, Komuves sought to find stories of other straight spouses with whom she could relate. Upon finding very limited resources, she set out to shape her retain experience of picking up the pieces of her shattered life – with the help of her faith, family, and friends. Would she ever be able to trust another man and have a marriage of love, respect, and friendship? More importantly she wants others to see her story as a resource should they ever find themselves in a similar situation. Perhaps this book could be the help for someone else that she herself needed.
In A Other Kind of Love: Heterosexual Wife, Homosexual Husband, Louella Christy K
A man has found aid after he admitted to "hating" his wife after she came out as a lesbian this month.
The viral Reddit post, titled, "My wife came out this month, and I feel like I'm not allowed to be mad," has garnered over 19,100 upvotes and 1,800 comments since it was posted in "True Off My Chest."
Redditor @dolcheetgabana shared the post on June 12, and he revealed his wife came out as a lesbian, adding that she "saw it fitting with it being June." The original poster's (OP) wife's father recently died, and he was "infamously homophobic" and had even disowned his son for being gay.
According to a 2021 Gallup poll, 5.6 percent of adults in the United States spot as LGBT. In addition, 54.6 percent of those individuals identify as bisexual person, 24.5 percent identify as gay, 11.7 percent distinguish as lesbian, and 11.3 percent identify as trans person. About 3.3 percent added in their own word as well.
The OP and his wife have been together for 24 years, and they started to date when they were 19 and 20, marrying at 25 and 26. The couple is now 43 and 44, and they have three children ranging in ages from 10 to 16. "Their lives are about to be torn apart thanks to a divor
I Thought I Got Divorced Because My Wife Is Gay. Now I’m Study It All Might’ve Been a Huge Lie.
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Dear How to Do It,
A year and a half ago, my wife came out as a lesbian. While losing her this way was painful, I agreed to end the marriage because I didn’t long her to have to live a lie. We’ve stayed in touch, which has been nice, but I recently heard something that made me really mad.
It turns out that she and her wife sometimes have threesomes in which they include a guy. Now a part of me feels like she ended our marriage under false pretenses and I feel betrayed. Did she deceive me?
—I Thought She Didn’t Go For That
Dear I Thought She Didn’t Travel For That,
Your ex-wife may have deceived you. Maybe when she told you she was a womxn loving womxn, she had lingering disbelief or even full facts that she still had sexual attraction to men. Maybe she thought it would be too complicated to explain this, that other present issues with your relationship (including the sexual aspect of it) were too much to get into so that “I’m gay” was the most efficient explanation.
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Last week my wife of 27 years told me she was a queer woman , is having an affair and is leaving. Everyone — our gay friends, straight friends, her coworkers who know and my coworkers who know — all believe she is a lesbian.
I don’t believe she is. We had great intimacy. We were truly best friends — or so I idea — and so she said. We loved each other in the truest marital sense — not just the sex.
I never thought there would be anything but us. I am angry about the affair and betrayal. She was going to counseling. I knew she was struggling with several issues: chronic back pain, weight gain, and high blood pressure. I have offered to help in whatever way I can.
Isn’t it possible this is something we can resolve together? She still says she loves me. I don’t know what is true. I am so confused.
A:
Learning that a spouse is gay can be confusing and devastating. You obviously care for her a lot and she for you.
Married couples where one spouse is gay often have very strong relationships with each other outside of sex, and sometimes even including sex. Many still refer to their ex-spouse as their top friend. I believe that it is
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