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Kate and Sylvia, who were a little too focused on their own nuptials to notice how difficult I was crying in the third row, told me later that they got exactly the wedding day they wanted — but that doesn’t express they didn’t hit any snags in the planning process, which Sylvia handled herself.

“When Kate and I would go to see vendors, many of them assumed we were nearby friends because of these preconceived notions of what being queer is supposed to look like, and we don’t fit that mold,” Sylvia said. “We even had a potential caterer ask which one of us was the bride!”

In fact, I saw an example of that willful ignorance firsthand at their wedding, when a hotel employee stopped me and my friends as we headed to the shuttle for the ceremony. “A guest left this bottle of wine for the bride,” the employee said. “Is anyone here a bridesmaid?” My friends and I tried to politely explain that the couple had chosen not to have a bridal party and that there were, in fact, two brides. “So, you grasp the bride?” she repeated, clearly not wanting to hear the words coming out of our mouths.

Ainsley Blattel, a queer wedding planner in New York City, has seen this kind of clueless interaction at